Tips to talk with people not known

Here are steps you can do to start a conversation with people who do not know you.

1. Use appropriate body language.
Body language can be a natural, incidental, or is, and this is the language most easily understood. Before you say something is verbal, you can solve the stiffness atmosphere with body language that can be defined by others as a familiar and easy to open.

Body language can express, among other things this is a smile and do not close your body with the arm-hand. One way to look for people who are friends is to try to speak with the intonation of voice calm, confident, and relaxed. Rather than the sound that spoke hurriedly, as people panic, or draw breath, or a greeting with 'O', which seemed heavy or stodgy.

Will be a difficult thing when you meet with people who speak a closed body. Because this can be 2 things, namely that they are afraid to start a conversation, or they are not gregarious. You can be the person who helps people, or so people who can disrupt. However, there is no one to try to be good, right?

2. Start with open questions
Direct and closed questions like "How are you?" Can be misleading. Because people tend akan replied "Both." After that, the conversation often turns to desert. At the beginning of this step, you should try to provide the answer to that question more than two words.
For example, "What's the best of the weekend yesterday?" Rather than "how to end pekannya? Fun? "Or" How do experience working in this company? "Rather than" how long has been working here? "

3. Use their answers back
A good storyteller is not the same as the pemulai a good conversation. Storyteller monopolize the conversation, the result can be good or bad, while experts will listen to the conversation and ask things right when there is opportunity. You can make the conversation continues not only with the subject or ask anything else. However, with the return to their words, or to use their answers and change them into a new question. Doing this will give the impression that you're listening, berempati, and connected to this person. Plus, this will bring the people who are telling stories more depth to be discussed are the topics.

4. Give the opponent to control the conversation to speak
When the discussion started, you are considered to control the wheel and talking without too vibrant look. Up to this point, you should have put the opponents to speak as the main speaker, and you as a listener. The advantage of this situation is, the opponent will be given the speech of speech as a fun conversation with you.

As we know, the topic for discussion is most interesting when we talk about ourselves. Topics for discussion is the second favorite news that are warm so the conversation. So, when you talk and make them feel happy with the discussion, you will not be too difficult to maintain the flow of speech.

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